Paa

The movie Paa inspires me to write this post. It's not the first time that some movie has touched my heart but Paa is different. Why? Since it conveys in an effortless manner something which is so difficult. The protagonist in fact has taken life as it comes without any qualms.

I was wondering how the lives of those kids must be who are affected with Progeria, how their family cope up with the situation. How the parents must feel seeing their child older than themselves. Such a rare phenomenon , as if time somehow switches to future.

Moreover I was thinking it took a movie to make us all aware of this kind of disease. Yes maybe some of us must have knowledge of this but not everyone. Does this mean we need a narration to understand things, a visual, a story then only we can ponder over the facts?

My mind is full of questions like how the child who suffers from Progeria views life. What exactly goes in his mind, he knows he is there for such a short time about 13 years but he has to squeeze in 70-80 years in that.Isn't this kind of race against time?

When simple things get difficult does that mean difficult things get simple? Does life's mystery lie in that?

Silence is golden-My take

Quite a common saying but sometimes we understand the deep meaning behind it. It actually helps when you are silent in some circumstances.And what are those circumstances- those situations where there is no point of discussion, needless to indulge in an argument.

Yes obviously when you are at fault and you are silent that is not going to help matters.But what when you know you are right and you stand by your convictions, if people don't believe in what you are saying and doing you can put your stand in front of them, provided they are willing to listen. If still nothing happens better leave it.

It's not that being silent will be easy not at all. It is the most difficult part but if you do you get a satisfaction which no argument or irrelevant discussion can provide. I view it as this- if there is fan in your room it makes lot of noise either you try to repair it or if it cannot be repaired you just switch it off or buy a new one.

It is easy to change a thing but not so easy to change the situation, you then have to adopt the method of switching off the fan. It's there but it doesn't exist for you.You have either adjusted yourself of living without it or have switched off to alternative method. But you have left it to be there. Think why you cannot throw it, is it a silent reminder to you that problem existed and you counteracted it by not listening to it.

Or you would adopt a method where you leave the fan running let it make noise but it is not going to affect you at all. This will be the most difficult choice though.
Life is complex and we need to choose options :

a) Try to correct the situation, you try to repair the fan
b)Try to distance yourself away from the situation,you switch off the fan
c)Try to be unaffected by the situation, you leave the faulty fan running

I feel at some points in our lives we need to adopt all the 3 options. What do you say?

Tweelings

Twitter is a new entry in my life, did I say anything new or stated something which is much outdated, kind of dull statement I am making? But as far as I am concerned when I am saying that this social networking site has created an impression in my life it means it is just like a friend to me like a family kind of. It lets me vent out my emotions, share what I feel listens silently, enlightens me and ensures I am always going. Can this be expected from anyone else other than someone close to you. It does not put bindings no conditions, lets me be myself just me , no fake persona , no facade no rules I have to follow. My network of friends are always there with some interesting things or other to ensure life is not boring. What can I ask more rather than soar up the sky and tweet to my heart content. Just some feelings sorry tweelings I wanted to share :)

Family

Life moves fast and we are spending more time with our colleagues(at least those of us who are working) at work than our family. Gradually it seems we are distanced from our near and dear ones, it's not that they are not there, they are but not in the way you would have wanted. The question comes how you want them to be? Nothing much, only the usual dinner together, discussing topics, gossips they all are missing since you don't have time and your family also doesn't have time to indulge in that. You seem lost, seek solace in your work and you get that also but then you ponder over the fact that how life has changed. Can you change it, at least for me I don't think I can. It has to be like this and it will be. Now what is positive in this, it is that you gradually evolve as a person,become more self dependent after all you know you have to struggle on your own. Do I mind or would you mind this situation? Would you like yourself as you would have been earlier emotionally dependent on some member of your family or as you are now dependent on yourself like anything. You know if you falter you won't get chance to lead a second life. I think life is moving fast but at the same time it's teaching us lot of things,fact is how much we are willing to learn depend entirely on us.

Email sharing

Wanted to share this interesting story which I received through email from one of my friends, life unfolds in a different way really...

"
At the 1994 annual awards dinner given for Forensic Science, AAFS President Dr. Don Harper Mills astounded his audience with the legal complications of a bizarre death.

Here is the story: On March 23, 1994 the medical examiner viewed the body of Ronald Opus and concluded that he died from a shotgun wound to the head. Mr. Opus had jumped from the top of a ten-storey building intending to commit suicide. He left a note to the effect indicating his despondency.

As he fell past the ninth floor his life was interrupted by a shotgun blast passing through a window, which killed him instantly. Neither the shooter nor the deceased was aware that a safety net had been installed just below the eighth floor level to protect some building workers and that Ronald Opus would not have been able to complete his suicide the way he had planned.

“Ordinarily,” Dr Mills continued, “A person who sets out to commit suicide and ultimately succeeds, even though the mechanism might not be what he intended, is still defined as committing suicide.” That Mr. Opus was shot on the way to certain death, but probably would not have been successful because of the safety net, caused the medical examiner to feel that he had a homicide on his hands.

The room on the ninth floor, where the shotgun blast emanated, was occupied by an elderly man and his wife. They were arguing vigorously and he was threatening her with a shotgun. The man was so upset that when he pulled the trigger he completely missed his wife and the pellets went through the window striking Mr. Opus.

When one intends to kill subject “A” but kills subject “B” in the attempt, one is guilty of the murder of subject “B.” When confronted with the murder charge the old man and his wife were both adamant and both said that they thought the shotgun was unloaded. The old man said it was a long-standing habit to threaten his wife with the unloaded shotgun. He had no intention to murder her. Therefore the killing of Mr. Opus appeared to be an accident; that is, if the gun had been accidentally loaded.

The continuing investigation turned up a witness who saw the old couple’s son loading the shotgun about six weeks prior to the fatal accident. It transpired that the old lady had cut off her son’s financial support and the son, knowing the propensity of his father to use the shotgun threateningly, loaded the gun with the expectation that his father would shoot his mother.

Since the loader of the gun was aware of this, he was guilty of the murder even though he didn’t actually pull the trigger. The case now becomes one of murder on the part of the son for the death of Ronald Opus. Now comes the exquisite twist

Further investigation revealed that the son was, in fact, Ronald Opus. He had become increasingly despondent over the failure of his attempt to engineer his mother’s murder. This led him to jump off the ten-storey building on March 23rd, only to be killed by a shotgun blast passing through the ninth storey window. The son had actually murdered himself so the medical examiner closed the case as a suicide. "

How much you should work

People sometimes ask me to relax,not think about work when I am out of my office.They feel I am over exerting myself. On the contrary I feel I am not, if I was then first thing first I would have realized that.See what I do is what my heart tells me to. I don't believe in the term workaholic. Even if it exists as everyone may say my question is to-is it good or is it bad,can you define? No we cannot,since it may be good for some and bad for another.

Further don't we need some 'workaholics' to keep the wheels running smoothly or so to say to balance the lethargic. Tough choice indeed. Either you go beyond or let the ship sink.So do you think in today's world you can think of a time bound job if you want to excel in your field. I don't think so,maybe I am wrong for some again but then I know I am right for myself.

Concept of smart work , now how smart does it get. Agreed you can do something methodically so that it takes less time to get completed. But I have seen some people who in the name of smart work actually did nothing. Then how do you define smart work. I think a way in which you can do a work in the best possible manner. Does smartness here actually relate to time ,maybe sometime but not always.

So this brings to the question-how much you should work. That much which you are supposed to do or that much you want to do or that much which actually should be done and which remains undefined. Believe it or not all of us may be following all the three ways, what do you think is the best one to follow so that nothing else gets hampered?

Life is different

Life is interesting ,when you are thinking of something to happen,it can happen that thing may not happen at all,then what will happen you may have never thought of.You feel bad and then after some time has passed out you realize what happened was for good only. Well is this my optimism which is speaking out,may be and this is my driving force.What I feel is if staying positive lets you be happy and also lets you perform your duties what is the harm in it.What benefit do i get if I keep on sulking.

I believe in doing something by heart and using my mind in it,so both my heart and mind work in sync.I can't do something only by mind.Then again I get the criticism that I am being too sensitive. So what if I am that rather than mechanical. Practicality comes only when you reason something well not when you judge something only by weighing the pros and cons. Life is something which I like to lead differently and enjoy it doing as well,may be it doesn't fall in the regular parameters but then is it necessary always to do what others do.

Sometimes I am chided by people who know me that I do things seriously ,I wonder then do I do that actually,as for me I do things in the best possible manner I can do ,not how others may have excelled in that. Sometimes it also comes to me what if I had been different from what I am now.How life would have been then. Does life change as you change or its changing pattern transforms you. Some answers which I am still searching for

Workaholic

I like work. Does it mean I like working, yes working for results , not just for the sake of it. Don't we all like results. Imagine a situation day in and day out you are just slogging but nothing is the outcome. Would you like it ,of course not. We human beings actually love goals,some destination we want to reach rather than just walking aimlessly. But then there is a fine line that is sometimes you do something and you don't expect anything in return but that doesn't mean you wouldn't want any definite outcome of this yes you would, rather in this case you would go beyond your usual capacity. This is the case where you actually work by heart. Like I am writing this blog why because I want to vent my feelings,am I expecting anything from this,yes satisfaction of my being and that would be the greatest reward. Apart from that if someone reads my blogs and finds it interesting I would definitely feel happy but if no one reads, still I would go on writing. Why because I would love reading all this as time passes. This is another work I love :)

Some thoughts again

Sometimes some people just cross their limits. They think they are indispensable and things cannot run without them. Sometimes people think too much from mind and become heartless. Maybe they are successful in whatever they do, but something remains amiss. They don't get peace , reason they never see beyond themselves. Self obsession is their hobby. They think of themselves to be the best but they fail to realize that where life changes every second , there is one gem emerging every moment. Wish people were modest along with being intelligent , we would have done away with lot of troubles all around sigh..................